Who are you going to call?


Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

This is when this starts to get pretty gnarly.

“Admitted … to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs?” Is that what it says? Does it have to be a human being? Why not a dog, or a cat, or record me admitting this to my phone? God and myself, I can handle, but I’m going to have some difficulty bringing the results of my moral inventory to anyone outside of that.

God and myself have been living with this stuff for some time now. God is probably pretty sick of it by now. Of course He doesn’t buy any of the justifications, excuses or rationalizations I’ve been using on myself. I buy them. They fool me all the time (at least that’s what I tell myself). It must be why I can live with this for so long.

So what does that say about the nature of my relationship with God? It says I’m counting on Him to put up with me. I’m leaning heavily on His grace, which is what we all have to do, but if I love Him and I keep on living with something I know He doesn’t like, what does that say about my love for Him? Don’t I love Him enough to want to change?

This is when the real struggle comes. It’s that other human being. If we just didn’t have that. That other human being really complicates everything. If I just keep it to myself and God, I think I can manage, but to drag someone else into it — that changes the whole picture. That person is most likely not going to buy my excuses and justifications nor are they going to let me blame someone else for my problems.

We all have things in our lives — sins, habits, hurts, flaws — that will be very hard to overcome. These are things we have made unhealthy alliances with — things we don’t intend to change, at least in the near future — things, indeed, that we are powerless to change. Sound familiar? Isn’t that where we started? We are powerless and our lives have become unmanageable. So here we are facing those things and we will either face them and learn how to overcome them, moving forward in God’s power, or we will leave and not come back to the meeting.

That other human being is critical. I have a friend I’ve been avoiding because he knows me too well. He won’t let me get away with anything. I called him this weekend because I saw this coming. Do you have a friend like that? At least I got the door open now. I can tell I’m going to need this relationship.

How about you? Who are you going to call?

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4 Responses to Who are you going to call?

  1. Jesus Aguilar says:

    Exactly, john, here the upper room and the baseman can come together and realize that we have been trying to baffle ourselves. God knows, so why does other human being have to know? No way, no way, I am going down with this and no body, no body will ever know aha!
    The exact nature of our sins (Character defects – short coming)
    OBEDIENCE Does this one count? LOL So clearly the Scriptures state: “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. – (OBEY) Id you obey my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have obeyed my Father’s commands and remain in his love.”
    How many of us obey the posting speeds?
    How many of us obey the stop sign
    I can go on and on, the important thing is to talk to another human being that has gone through the same and make us feel that we are not unique, that we are not evil, we are just sick.

  2. Sandie says:

    I am blessed that I don’t even have to call someone…he sleeps beside me every night. We have been each other’s sounding board it seems like forever. Trust me – NOTHING gets by either of us and NOBODY gets away with anything for long! We are brutally honest with each other and boy does that ever sting at times!
    One caution though…whoever is the person that calls YOU…make sure you sprinkle affirmation and recognition of successes in with the hard things you may have to say to them. Be respectful and compassionate without being an enabler. The wisdom of The Spirit VERY necessary, otherwise you can tear down the good things the Lord is accomplishing in that person. And always be honest and forthcoming with your own failures, but don’t forget your progress too. Hearing these things gives people hope and courage to hang in there and keep trying.

    • Jesus Aguilar says:

      Your sharing just open a new door for me. Although my wife and I know each other for 54 years and 51 under the guidance and care of our Lord and Savior, We have different paths and different addictions, while she never have touch a drink or a drug, she has her own addictions LOL and I am not going to disclosed them for any body but she admits this to herself and helps me to help her by not bringing home things that trigger her addiction so we watch for each other.
      We after all this time know by heart that the truth hurts and hurts in a big way but the healing and the comfort after is delightful produces lots of intimate signs of love, you know little signs, creates memories and we live with them.
      When I am ready to sit down with another to hear a fifth step, I have a routine of silence, meditation and confirmation from the Holy Spirit that I am bonded to silence, to compassion, to mercy, to understanding and validation. It works, it really does.

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