Getting along with those who are different


Wayne Bridegroom, aside from being my roomie in college (which means very little in the grand scheme of things except that it provides for our personal connection), is the pastor of a multiracial church in central California. The church has been in an area of town that has changed over racially three different times and the church never moved. It just adjusted to the predominant culture around it. It’s the main reason why the church is mixed, racially. When others moved out, they stayed. As the world around them shifted, they shifted to meet it. As a result, he’s learned a thing or two about race relations from the best school there is — the school of life, and from that school he’s learned three important lessons that he shared with us on our BlogTalkRadio show last night — three simple things to do to get along with someone who is different from you.

Think: “I’m not better than you.”
Think: “I can learn from you.”
Put your hand to the plow and work together.

The most important things are usually the most obvious, but what he’s calling for when it comes to race relations is basically a spirit of humility. Don’t look down your nose at anyone; look up, because you have made that other person more important than yourself, so you have to look up to them. Look up to someone of a different color or culture or religion. Look up to someone different, not down, and think about what you can learn from them.

Of course this doesn’t just apply to race relations; it would apply to a relationship with anyone. Who wouldn’t want a relationship with someone who thought they were something special?

Therefore if you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any common sharing in the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and of one mind. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. Philippians 2:2-4


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7 Responses to Getting along with those who are different

  1. cehall406 says:

    A perfect reminder to these troubling times and for every day! The three simple things to do to get along with someone who is different from you is going to be my message from now on. God bless you!

  2. Gregory Waite says:

    John, I was a minority living and working in 3 different countires for 25 years as a Christian missionary Bahamas Costa Rica and Colombia. That was my thinking that I can and will learn from you not that you have to learn only from me!!

  3. Mark Seguin says:

    As it often happens Pastor John, I NEEDED to hear Today’s Catch!!! You see I had to get a new home health care service and the new Physical Therapist just so happen to stop by as I was getting done listening to it. He is originally from Pakistan and is Muslim, so I told him, Solomon about that gentleman u once interviewed and him translating the Koran and the what he said, after u asked him about how us Christian’s believe in being born-again, his response which I lov, is that’s worship!

    Solomon, smile widely and said, Mark that’s very wise and your a good man. I replied, I believe so are you – I made a new friend today! Much thx to the wisdom of the Catch! 🙂 ❤

  4. Tim says:

    I invited a guest pastor last Sunday evening to share a devotional. He has strong views that differ than most of those to our life journey group although that was not his topic.
    This man and his wife are loving and wonderful friends of my wife and I.
    My objective for one was to introduce the idea to our group that we don’t have to agree to have close loving relationships with others.
    At one point in the discussion it could have gotten ugly but didn’t, thankfully.
    Not sure mission was accomplished.
    Being polite is not equal to being loving.
    I’ll be using today’s Catch to help sell the idea.

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